Leaving your older relative at a nursing home is supposed to alleviate stress, but it can bring on even more challenges. You brought them there expecting a certain level of care, and it doesn’t help anyone if they don’t receive what they need. They may not want—or be able—to report abuse or neglect themselves, so it could fall on you to notice the warning signs.
The decision to put your elder parent’s care in the hands of a stranger requires an immense amount of trust—and it is likely not a decision you take lightly. But as your loved one’s memory becomes more compromised, you begin to realize that they can’t take care of themselves anymore—and that with your full-time job, you can’t manage that responsibility either. Finding outside help is the only solution.